I had a very difficult time understanding this principle. I thought it meant letting anyone do anything and not holding them accountable for the pain they may inflict on you. I was wrong. It took many years to realize that it was okay—it was imperative—that we have boundaries in our relationships with other people. Having those boundaries lets you know when someone has crossed them, and THEN you can offer them forgiveness. Forgiveness acknowledges that someone has stepped over the line, and it tells the person they have stepped over the line, and then it lets all the pain go. It is the companion principle to confession. The two work together in a beautiful way to clean up the mess that lives in so many of our hearts. Back to that fearless moral inventory—it would be easy for that step to lead us to despair if it were not for this step. In learning forgiveness, we must also learn to forgive ourselves.