Addiction is widespread. We have probably all been affected by it–either in our own life or the life of a loved one. The most clear indicator that you may be dealing with addiction is the quality of relationships. Addiction kills healthy relationships. This is true whether
the addiction is drugs, alcohol, tobacco, gambling, shopping, overeating, video gaming, pornography, workaholism, or codependence. It is impossible to have a healthy relationship in the presence of addiction, and the degree of dysfunction is probably proportional to the severity of the addiction. Perhaps the best definition of addiction is knowing that some behavior of yours is ruining your own life and the lives of those you love, and yet you feel powerless to stop. There may be many promises and sincere efforts, but they always end in failure and a decreasing sense of self-worth and freedom. Probably the most important truth to understand about addiction is that the addict cannot stop on their own and needs help. The addiction seeks isolation. Healing is found in associations with others who can understand and offer hope and strength and direction. This is why the 12-Step program has been the most successful program in helping those struggling with addiction. My husband and I have hosted a 12-Step Addiction Recovery Program for almost three years. I love the principles taught there. From the drop-down menu here, you can review these powerful twelve steps.